i need to confront someone that's been creating/enhancing lots of problems for my siblings and i. when i've confronted individuals in the past, it has either blown up in my face because my anger/hurt overcomes me or it doesn't happen at all because i don't have the courage to say what needs to be said. this time it's more important than ever that neither of these happen. if i don't communicate the issues effectively, things will get worse for my siblings. so if you could be thinking of me as i figure out what to say and as i confront this person, it would be much appreciated.